Dating via text
We can’t seem too eager or it’ll run the lady away… If you can’t do that, give him a ring and get a vibe while you’re talking.too distant and it’s just a game.” –Jeremy, 26, North Carolina “Stop overanalyzing and remember that actions and the way you’re being treated are far better indicators than words.” –Jake, 27, South Carolina “OK, look – the further you go from good ol’ face-to-face interaction, the more opportunity there is for misunderstanding and misinterpretation. The thing about texting is that it’s composed – we’re editing what we say, rephrasing things, intentionally leaving out punctuation…the point is, this form of communication is inherently unrepresentative.He’s probably just a nice guy that would rather you didn’t die.Translation: ‘In case you hadn’t noticed, I’m a nice guy.’” –Kevin, 26, Brooklyn Text message: You ask him to confirm plans he mentioned on your last date and he replies with, “I don’t know yet. Give me 10 minutes to Google something.” –Jeremy, 26, North Carolina “I don’t want to tell you no. I will not write you a sonnet.” –Jake, 27, South Carolina “Yikes, save the long-form for emails or face-to-face, will ya? Everyone has a second to respond to a text, don’t they?? And work is really rough and I’ve been non-stop all day and this is the first chance I got to get back to you.Try not to analyze or read into how something was said and focus on what was said.Sometimes there is an alternate meaning to what is said, but with guys it isn’t far from the surface (trust me).
I think it’s pretty universal that guys appreciate humor and sarcasm via text. If we don’t, avoiding hanging out with you is not just a coincidence.” -Vish, 26, New York “Most important thing to keep in mind: Emotion and inflection are not conveyed through text message.
So whether you text a lot or not, we’re always attracted to that. Thinking ‘why did he say it like that’ and the inevitable analyzing is usually not going to end well.
True communication should be done face to face or a phone call so you can hear how someone says something or their expressions when they say it.
I’ll wait a while to respond and then see what he has to say. What men mean: “I’m bored and you’re still in my phone book.” -Jake, 27, South Carolina “Guys get distracted, whether it be work, hanging out with friends, or spotting something shiny on a walk in the park. I still think this means, ‘hey, what are you doing?
’” -Sean, 26, Florida “Date wasn’t all that great and after striking out with other prospects this past week, I think I’ll take you up on another date.” –Daniel, 26, New York Text message: “You’re really great and I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you the last few weeks.
You might even send what you intend to respond with to your friends, too – just so you have a second opinion.