Changing attitudes toward teen sex dating
"Our generation has given up on love," says one young woman.
"It's easier to find a fuck buddy than a boyfriend."Dakota, a college student from Florida, says the bar for their male hookups' behaviour is so low that if a man texts them the following morning, they're considered a rare "great guy" – despite that being, by most people's standards, common courtesy.
"People will completely dismiss any emotions that go along with sex because it's not supposed to matter anymore.
It's not supposed to be a big thing."Dakota's theory is that the main difference between the sexual revolution of the '60s and now is that the link between sex and emotions has been severed completely.
"Women are one of the ways in which [men] express that power and on whose bodies [men] express that power.
Many men then become “players” to assert their place in the world, feeling the need to sleep with a lot of women to be considered a “real man”.
It's no wonder that many of the women featured claim to have "given up on love" or believe it doesn't exist.
For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.
It’s not uncommon for parents and grandparents to set their children up on blind dates with suitable matches they’ve found.
However, it's difficult to feel sorry for many of the men interviewed in the documentary, particularly after they reveal their tactics for sleeping with women.“Compliment a girl, she’ll fall for it, especially with the accent,” says a British student named Ben, while another called Shep says girls are "troopers" if, "once you’ve banged them they...
put their clothes on and do one.” Another asks: “What do you mean get to know her?
But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.